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Free Resource, from Dr. J.J. Kelly
The Fridge Contract
Stop having the same fight with your kiddo. Download this free, DBT-informed parenting contract that Dr. Kelly uses with her clients. Five pages, signed by you and your kid, stuck on the fridge. Next time there's a fight—grades, phones, chores, curfews—it'll all be handled in advance.
P.S. Make sure you "allow pop ups" to download the PDF.
What's In It?
Get Ahead of Every Fight
Built on the DBT-informed framework Dr. Kelly uses with her clients. Draft it when you and your kiddo are in a calm place. Read it out loud with your kid. Sign it. Stick it on the fridge. And then pull it out each time "I don't know" or "You never said that' shows up.
01
GRADES, CLASS BY CLASS
Specific minimums per subject. Updated each term. Plus a homework check-in time you'll actually keep.
02
Chores without the Whine
Daily and weekly duties. No reminders. No pissin' & moanin'. (And a smart way to handle the allowance question.)
03
Privileges, earned
Phone, car, laptop, internet, going out. You bought it, you own it. Check what counts as a privilege in your house.
04
Consequences That Work
Violation, what's revoked, for how long. No empty threats. No follow-through-flaking. Phones turned in nightly.
05
Grounding without Shame
Defined up front: how long, what's gone, what gets tacked on for wheedling. Clarity creates psychological safety.
06
Making It Official
Parent(s) and kid sign and date. Then it goes on the fridge. In full view. Forever.
Meet Dr. Kelly,
The Punk Rock Doc
Clinical psychologist, DBT-trained, founder of UnorthoDocs, Inc., and author of the Holy Sh*t series. Known to the families she works with as The Punk Rock Doc.
Two decades of coaching teens and parents through the mood-dependent decision-making that makes everything worse. This contract is one of the first tools she hands them.
P.S. Make sure you "allow pop ups" to download the PDF.
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